When Your Emotional Pain is Unbearable

Mental pain is less dramatic than physical pain, but it is more common and also more hard to bear. The frequent attempt to conceal mental pain increases the burden: it is easier to say ‘My tooth is aching’ than to say ‘My heart is broken.’
— C.S. Lewis, The Problem of Pain

What do you do when you find yourself caught in the deep darkness of emotional pain that feels never-ending? When you feel isolated, alone, burdened? When you catch yourself thinking, “no one really understands what I’m going through right now”? When you’re afraid to share those struggles because you’re worried it might change someone’s opinion of you? When the thoughts get too dark?

Here are three Gospel truths to light the darkness that has you trapped and soothe the sores of your aching heart:


It’s the shortest verse in the Bible, yet it carries with it perhaps one of the most meaningful truths for those of us in the deep waters of suffering: “Jesus wept.” (John 11:35)

The context: Jesus encounters the grief of a family He’s grown close to. Lazarus has just died. He knew what He was about to do, namely, raise him from the dead. Yet, here we find such a stunning picture of our Lord’s compassion and care—there are tears on the face of God. While you are weeping your God is right there with you and He will never leave you or forsake you. Let the tenderness of that thought roll down your cheek like the tears you shed.


Corrie Ten Boom said it best, “There is no pit so deep, that God's love is not deeper still.”  Whatever ails you, you have a reason to hope, and not only that, but you have access to hope itself—the God who is infinite in all of His attributes, who never ceases to intercede for you. Hope abounds for the believer because He abounds without end. 

“and hope does not disappoint, because the love of God has been poured out within our hearts through the Holy Spirit who was given to us.” (Romans 5:5)

Your Father is the Great Masterful Composer of the universe doing what no one can do. He brings all things: sins, pains, failures, disappointments, sorrows, struggles, suffering and turns them into a sweeter song than we could ever dream to let our ears hear. “And we know that God causes all things to work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose.” (Romans 8:28)

No, my suffering friend, pain will not be your end. “Surely goodness and lovingkindness will follow me all the days of my life, And I will dwell in the house of the LORD forever.” (Psalm 23:6)


Take some time today and read through the passages surrounding the verses mentioned above. List three things they tell you about God’s character. And if you can, talk to a strong, safe brother or sister that can pray for you as you walk through this difficult time you’ve been going through.